For many years, I believed that loving myself was something I would get to after everything else. After I had proven my worth. After I had made others comfortable. After I had endured enough. Like many women, I learned early on how to be strong for everyone else while quietly neglecting myself.
This slow abandonment of self shaped my relationships, decisions, and sense of self-worth. That realization became the foundation of my self-help book, As A Woman, Love Yourself.
Research by the American Psychological Association shows that women often carry a disproportionate amount of emotional labor, which directly affects mental health and self-esteem
The Emotional Weight Women Carry
Women are taught to give endlessly, to compromise deeply, and to remain resilient no matter the emotional cost. Strength is praised, but rest is questioned. Sacrifice is celebrated, but self-preservation is misunderstood.
According to the World Health Organization, emotional well-being is essential to overall health, not optional. Yet many women continue to pour from empty cups. As A Woman, Love Yourself was written to challenge this narrative.
Recognizing Red Flags and Unhealthy Patterns
I began writing this book during a season of reflection and healing. I noticed how often women stay in situations that drain them, relationships, environments, and habits that no longer serve them.
Psychology Today explains that people often remain in unhealthy emotional patterns because familiarity feels safer than change. Women are not weak for staying too long. Many were never taught that choosing themselves was allowed.
What Loving Yourself Truly Means
Self-love is not just affirmations or self-care routines. Sometimes, loving yourself is uncomfortable. It means:
- Setting boundaries
- Saying no without guilt
- Letting go of what harms your peace
Experts agree that boundaries are essential for healthy relationships, not a sign of selfishness. In As A Woman, Love Yourself, I explore self-love as responsibility — the responsibility to protect your emotional well-being.
Healing, Forgiveness, and Self-Worth
Forgiveness is another core theme of the book. Healing does not mean forgetting or tolerating repeated harm. It means choosing peace while honoring your truth.
According to Verywell Mind, internal validation leads to healthier emotional outcomes than relying on external approval. Your worth does not decrease because someone failed to see it. Your worth is timeless.
Who As A Woman, Love Yourself Is For
This book is for:
- Women learning to choose themselves
- Women healing from emotional exhaustion
- Women rediscovering their self-worth
It is for the woman who is tired of shrinking and ready to step into self-respect.
An Invitation to Choose Yourself
Writing As A Woman, Love Yourself was not just a creative process — it was a personal commitment. A commitment to honesty, healing, and empowerment.
This book is an invitation: To heal. To grow. To choose yourself…unapologetically.